Hate

Hate is one of the strongest and most damaging emotions we can have. And the more we hate someone, the more they are in control. Hate grows from pain and anger that we let build up inside of us. And if it is not dealt with, it can consume us. We can never lead the kind of lives we want if we have allowed hate to overcome us. I personally have felt the devastation that hate has dealt in my life. And I have also felt the incredible release and healing from letting that hate go. This experience has given me the drive to try to help others to let go of the bitterness and hate so that they can feel the power of forgiveness.

It is quite true that forgiveness is not there for the person that has hurt you. It is there for you. And even if the one you hate has never expressed any kind of remorse for what they have done, it is still possible to forgive. It is probably hardest to forgive when someone has hurt you and is not sorry for it. But who is the one that is going to keep hurting until you let it go? Not them. They don't care. In fact, it might give them satisfaction if they are someone that takes pleasure in watching you hurt. People like that are filled with hate and misery themselves. So the best thing to do is look upon them with pity. Try to imagine how they feel every day living with themselves? They can't be happy. So the only thing you can do is offer your forgiveness and move on. And somehow find a way to truly hope that they can overcome their own anger and hate. If you can get to the point where you can feel compassion, even when someone is behaving in the most evil manners, then the hate will start to dissipate. Not only will it feel good to just let it go, it will greatly help your self image. I can't even tell you the power in showing love and kindness to others no matter what they do to you. If you have the self confidence in yourself to know that it doesn't matter what others say and do because you know you are a good person and that you are doing the right thing, you can rise to any challenge others throw at you. There will always be people that try to push you down. But it's up to you whether you stay there or pull yourself up, dust yourself off, and move on.